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Mail to the Chief: kids advice for the 2nd term

I’m a sucker for pomp and circumstance and anything that makes me proud to be an American, so I loved watching Monday’s inaugural festivities. This is a blog about family life and pop culture– not politics– so I’ll stick to the fluff analysis.

I loved all Michelle’s fashion choices– from the cool J.Crew sash she turned into a belt for her sleek swearing-in coat, to her red Jason Wu evening gown. She looked stunning, modern, and comfortable. Have we had a First Lady as beautiful and stylish since Jackie Kennedy? I think not.

Looks like Sasha and Malia are taking after mom in good taste. I loved their complimentary purple coats, scarves, and gloves and how playful they were with their parents and each other when they weren’t required to be serious.

I can’t even imagine what it must feel like to look out at hundreds of thousands of people who’ve been standing in the cold all day to catch a glimpse of your dad.  Or what it feels like to hear the best in music serenading your dad as the leader of the country. At least they have each other to pinch in those moments. I wish those first daughters could blog!

Kelly Clarkson, Beyonce, and James Taylor were all terrific and seemed honored by the significance of their role in the day. I got a lump in my throat hearing all those patriotic songs and felt lucky to live in the USA.

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In my travels I found a story in the Huffington Post about letters kids have written to President Obama about what he needs to get done in his second term. It’s part of an educational program called “Mail to the Chief,” aimed at encouraging kids in grades K-5 to write letters by hand and get involved in civics and government.

As you might expect, some of the letters are hilarious because kids are so unfiltered and candid. Other requests show a real interest in the world around them. Many students asked the President to try to improve life for others less fortunate– impressive for kids so young. The letters about the troops will tie your heartstrings in a bow.

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You can read some of the letters here.

One of my favorite lines from Catherine of Glen Falls, NY says:

You should try to do some things Republicans want. I’m not saying everything, just a few because you want most people to like you. I want Republicans and Democrats to get along better.” 

Me too, Catherine!

Lance spills to Oprah– did you watch?

This was a big week for famous people telling us things we already knew. First actress Jodie Foster came out in a rambling, indirect speech at the Golden Globes, and tonight I watched former 7-time Tour De France winner Lance Armstrong admit to doping.

The evidence has been out there for a while and despite many public denials, Lance finally came clean in an exclusive interview with Oprah on her OWN network.

The stories I’ve read about the systematic bullying, threats, and intimidation he used against his inner circle when they betrayed him, make him sound like a monster.

Some view his fall from grace as especially shameful because he’s also a testicular cancer survivor who formed the Livestrong foundation that has raised millions of dollars for research, and inspired many touched by cancer.

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In a great article previewing the interview, Dan Wetzel of Yahoo sports wrote:

Armstrong isn’t necessarily a bad guy for doping. He is a bad guy for the way he used his immense power, fame and fortune to attempt to ruin anyone who dared to speak the truth to his avalanche of lies.

He goes on to list all the questions he would ask if he ever got a shot at Armstrong. Oprah addressed many of them in the interview.

Armstrong admitted right off the top that he used performance enhancing drugs, and said he was doing the interview to acknowledge his mistakes and apologize.  He seemed tense and shifty, often clenching his teeth and avoiding looking Oprah in the eye as he answered the toughest questions.  He probably would rather have been almost anywhere but that chair. But he did talk for two and a half hours. Here are some of the highlights that stood out:

–Why now: “I don’t have a good answer. This is too late. It was one big lie I repeated a lot of times.”

–Why he kept up the charade for so long : “This story was so perfect for so long. A  mythic perfect story. I lost myself in all that. I couldn’t handle it, I had always controlled every outcome of my life.”

–On his rough tactics against teammates and others who came clean: “I was a bully. I tried to control the narrative by calling them liars.”

–Why he thinks he bullied people: “My mother had me very young and we always had our back against the wall… so we were fighters, my entire life. I took that ruthless, relentless attitude into cycling. Surviving cancer changed me… and that instinct morphed into the bullying.”

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–On a video of him denying drug use to anti-doping officials: “I think, look at that arrogant prick. It’s not good.”

–Oprah: “Did you feel the doping was wrong at the time?”  Lance:  “No. ”                           Oprah: “Did you feel bad about it?”   Lance: “No, scary, right?”                                           Oprah: “You didn’t think you were cheating at the time?”  Lance: “No, even scarier.”

–On the day his doping case was reopened: ” I’d do anything to go back to that day. I wouldn’t fight it. I wouldn’t sue them. I’d listen….I wish I could have told the truth then.”

–On how he expects people to react: “I see the anger in people who supported and believed in me. They have every right to feel betrayed. I’ll spend the rest of my life trying to earn back trust.” 

–On suing Irish cycling masseuse Emma O’Reilly and others who outed his doping: “That was a major flaw. It was a guy who expected to get whatever he wanted and control every outcome. Some people won’t forgive me. I understand that.” 

Critics said Armstrong chose Oprah because she would go easy on him. But anyone who knows her interview style knows she’s anything but soft.  She came prepared, armed with facts, quotes and video that wasn’t just handed to her by producers. She brang it. She was composed and clear. There were many questions she planned to ask but she wasn’t afraid to react to his answers and delve deeper.  She has a way of getting people to “speak their truths,” as she would say. There’s still another hour to air tomorrow, but so far, I’d give her an A.

It was compelling TV.

Oprah went on “CBS This Morning” this week and had some interesting things to say about the interview. You can see that here.

My thoughts? Armstrong was a bad, selfish guy who lied. Now he’s still a bad guy who happens to be telling the truth, for reasons still unclear. I didn’t believe he was sincere and am not sure if he’s sorry he did it or sorry he got caught.

Did you watch it? OWN is repeating the interview Friday and throughout the weekend if you want to catch it. What did you think? Tell me in the comments.

Chicks rule at the Golden Globes: my highlights

I told Wilson and the kids to fend for themselves for dinner and plopped myself in front of the TV with my gear. Watching awards shows has become a multimedia experience. I watched the Globes live, but during commercials I rewound the pre-show on my DVR to make sure I didn’t miss any good fashion, while monitoring Twitter on my iPad for buzz, and blogging for you people on my laptop.

I was in heaven.

Golden Globes 2013 highlights

The night was filled with promise, especially since two of my favorite funny ladies, Amy Poehler and Tina Fey were hosting.

First, my thoughts on fashion…..

Lots of black on the red carpet this year made for some dull choices. There weren’t any Bjork swan dress moments, and there were many who looked great (Julie Bowen, Zoey Deschanel, Sofia Vergara, and Amanda Seyfried come to mind)  but few WOWS. Here are my hits and misses.

HITS:

JLo—Biggest wow for me. Her dress looked like delicate lace painted on her body. Sexy yet chic, and perfect hair.

Taylor Swift— Elegant, beautiful in eggplant with dangly jeweled earrings and romantic hair.

Julianne Moore—Black and white Tom Ford dress to die-for: sleek, modern, gorgeous.

Nicole Kidman— Out of Tom’s shadow, she’s not afraid to wear heels and tower over Keith Urban in a polished McQueen that was classy with edge. Her face looked less pulled and her hair was loose and pretty.

Hayden Penettiere – Gorgeous lace fitted sheath with feathered fish tail. She sings, she acts and she can wear a dress. One to watch.

Kate Hudson— Pushed out 2 kids and springs back to svelte, rocking a daring Cleopatra gold and black number.

Julianna Margolies-– Didn’t love the long straight ponytail but she gets best back award in black lacy Pucci dress. Sexy and toned.

Stacy Keibler—People famous for who they date bug me, but I can’t overlook her shiny black Armani sheath with modern striped detail. She looked phenomenal, even standing next to George.

Clooney—No one wears a tux like George. ‘Nuf said.

Leo Dicaprio— Old Hollywood handsome, classic. Loved.

Denzel Washington— Looked great in straight tie tux. Aging well.

MISSES:

Lucy Liu— Her poofy patterned dress looked like a wedding cake ornament.

Giuliana Rancic- Does good interviews but looked like sickly skinny Cruella D’ville in creepy black lace dress.

Sienna Miller— Huh? Looked like a backyard BBQ reject…channeling …Lily Pulitzer? Toned down makeup made the look seem overly plain and inappropriate.

Halle Berry—Didn’t like the dress or jewelry, but she still looked phenomenal.

Ben Affleck– His tux had weird pointy shoulders and looked too small– maybe shrunk in the wash?

Now for the show…..

–It was entertaining and moved quickly. Tina and Amy looked great and killed it.  Very funny without any schtick, just good writing and delivery. Their opening monologue is worth a view if you can find it on YouTube. I LOL-ed several times and was thoroughly entertained seeing the look of restrained panic on faces of singled out celebs as they waited to see if they’d be celebrated or humiliated. Also loved when Tina and Amy dressed up as random fake nominees– hilarious and creative.

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–“Homeland” won for best drama. “Boardwalk Empire” was better this year but the Hollywood foreign press loves terror. Damien Lewis and Claire Danes’ crazy eyes won acting awards for “Homeland” too.

Adele had an adorable acceptance speech when she won for best song for “Skyfall.”

–Judging from the wild applause and immediate standing ovation, presenter Bill Clinton is bigger than Clooney. He’s like the Dalai Lama of Hollywood.

— I giggled all through Will Ferrell and Kristin Wiig’s bit, guessing what films were about from their names. Find that on YouTube too.

–Loved Jennifer Lawrence’s speech for best actress in “Silver Linings  Playbook.” Funny, self possessed, real. Anne Hathaway’s speech for “Les Miz” was sweet but lacked the same cache.

–Love, love love Lena Dunham and so happy she won for best comedy actress and best comedy….but why was she wearing shoes she couldn’t walk in??

Jodie Foster’s Cecil B DeMille award speech was um, interesting. Revealing, slightly angry, loopy, daring, and moving. I think she came out but I’m still not sure.

–Loved the kiss and sweet words Ben Affleck had for Jennifer Garner when he won for directing “Argo.” The movie also won best drama. Still can’t believe he beat out Spielberg for “Lincoln,” but Ben got no Oscar love and “Lincoln” was most nominated so maybe it will all work out in the end.

Women are making an impact in Hollywood. The show featured females in many major roles: hosts, outgoing Hollywood Foreign Press head, writers, directors, and the DeMille recipient. Maybe there’s hope for movies and TV after all.

That’s my take. Did you watch? Tell me in the comments if you agree!

Coexisting with technology: one mom’s iPhone conditions

There’s a whole internet out there filled with parenting stories and advice. Some of it’s so obvious it’s a waste of my time, some so unrealistic it makes me wonder if the writer ever actually had kids.

But every once in a while I read something that resonates. If you haven’t already seen the interview with blogger Janell Hoffman of Cape Cod, Massachusetts, do yourself a favor and read the article here.

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Janell’s 13-year-old son –much like my oldest son– wanted an iPhone for Christmas. Janell thought long and hard and decided to give him one….but with a contract attached.

This wasn’t your standard AT&T group minutes deal. This was an 18-point agreement that her son, Greg, had to accept in order to use the coveted smart phone.

The contract is so brilliant, I wish I had written it myself. It’s the perfect combination of smart and tough, supportive and loving. This savvy mom wants to reward her son for being a good kid. But with privilege comes responsibility.

Her rules are reasonable. They let Greg know that sending pictures of himself and friends on Instagram is something you do once in a while because it’s fun. You don’t send inappropriate photos that will live on the internet forever, and you don’t post every 15 minutes in place of living life.

The contract is also infused with humor and sweetness that makes her message sing. Despite some of her strict boundaries on usage, Janell explains why her points are important and opens the lines of communication.

Just read it. It’s that good.

I may not have written it, but I will be sharing it with my kids when I finally cave and get them a smart phone.

Hats off to you Janell Hoffman. Greg, you’re lucky to have a thoughtful and loving mom. Live up to her standards. Make her proud. And don’t lose that phone!

Mickey as Big Brother? Disney Goes High-Tech

I read an interesting article recently about Disney World making a major technological change that could cause some controversy.  Soon park visitors will be able to buy food and souvenirs with the tap of a bracelet. You’ll be able to virtually wait on line for popular rides while enjoying another part of the park. All great changes, right? But what’s the cost?

Perhaps your privacy.

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The new “vacation management” system– quaintly called MyMagic+ — improves your park experience, while collecting data on your family.

The holy grail for most companies is gathering information about customers’ purchasing preferences. But slipping on a MyMagic+ bracelet will allow Mickey to track your every move.

The house of mouse knows how to lure its disciples. Who could resist using the new MyMagic+ app to preselect several FastPasses for popular rides, or save a prime spot to watch the parades and fireworks, or schedule a sit-down with Buzz Lightyear? There will also be some kind of magic band that will function as a room key, park ticket, and credit card.

According to the article, you’ll be able to enter personal information to a data site that will be stored and readable so when you run into Ariel the Mermaid in line for Splash Mountain, she’ll be able to personally greet your star-struck kid and even tell her happy birthday. The idea is to make your park visit as interactive as possible.

That Walt is good. He knows just how to get you.

Of course, no one will be forced to use the Magic bands and bracelets, and it will be up to you to decide which information to share. But there are privacy concerns, especially when it comes to divulging details on kids. And not everyone will like the idea of having eyes on them all over the park.

Space Mountain at Disneyland

You can read the full NY Times article for details here.

As I’ve said in previous posts, we’re Disney fans and one of the best parts of the experience is how every family member unplugs all day.  It’s one of the few places that appeals to all ages and no one even notices we’re off the grid.

I’m not sure I  need new technology distracting us. Part of the fun of the day is standing on some of those long lines, catching up with our cousins or playing games with the kids while anticipating the fun of the ride. I don’t want to be checking my smart phone or iPad several times a day to make sure I’m getting every modern advantage possible.

Disney is the leader in amusement park innovation so these high-tech changes will likely show up in other venues soon. How will this new technology affect your experience? Do you think the Magic bands will zap some of the charm out of the Disney adventure? Let me know in the comments.

Best 2012 year-end lists and photos, so far

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I’m a huge fan of year-in-review pieces. Memorable TV moments, best books, funniest tweets…you name it– I love a good wrap-up list.

I scanned the interweb for some good ones you can peruse during this slow holiday week. Click on the links below to get to the lists.

If you like your refresher in one quick shot– USAToday.com has a 60-second year in review of news events with compelling photos. The site also has more photo reviews in sports, music and politics.

Yahoo has several roundups of events including a comprehensive  top 10 news stories of the year.

This was the year I became a Twitter addict. I’m not necessarily proud of it but I can’t seem to stop (#convert). Time magazine compiled a list of the best Twitter feeds of 2012 which is great for both newbies and those of us who are always looking for the best feeds to follow.

Another interesting  social media-related compilation is called Top 10 Lists-o-Rama, which details the most popular searches, people, and questions on Yahoo this year. You can see everything from top requested recipes to top song lyrics.

We lost some huge stars this year: Whitney Houston, Donna Summer, and Dick Clark to name just a few. To remember them all, check out this slide show of notable deaths of 2012.

Sports fans will like ESPN’s photo gallery of the best of the Summer Olympic Games, and animal lovers should view NBC’s Today show’s list of 12 most liked animal stories of 2012.

Of course best pop culture lists are completely subjective. I watch only 4 and a half of the shows list in this Huffington Post list of 2012’s top 10 best shows.  My DVR is at least half on track.

Entertainment Weekly’s best books of the year made me want to fill up my Kindle and if you’re into music, Spin.com has a robust array of best of lists. I browsed through the top 50 albums and had not even heard of most of the artists so I’m out of my element there.

Many of the major news outlets have not published their year-end lists yet so I’ll be looking for more this week. Please let me know in the comments if you see any other lists or pieces worth a look.

How one smart cookie made a difference

I love it when kids buck the system and take charge, undaunted by their age. That’s what happened recently to a 13-year-old Jersey girl named McKenna Pope.

McKenna’s 4-year-old brother, Gavyn, loves to cook and asked for an “Easy Bake Oven” for Christmas. When his sister went to buy one, she found they only come in pink or purple, and the boxes and commercials only feature girls.

That didn’t sit right with McKenna so she started an online petition asking toy maker Hasbro to make the ovens in gender-neutral colors and add a dash of  boys to the packaging.

In less than a week, her online video and petition cooked up more than 44,000 signatures and she had caught the attention of celebrity chef Bobby Flay. Turns out Flay had an “Easy Bake” when he was a kid and remembered it fondly, despite the girly colors.

easybakeoven for boysHasbro got wind of McKenna’s efforts and invited her and her family to its Rhode Island headquarters Monday to hear her ideas and see their future models, which are more gender neutral. So Gavyn and Bobby will get their wish with a silver or black Easy Bake Oven when they roll out next year.

If you watch the video above you’ll see how smart and poised McKenna is in her plea to Hasbro. She saw a problem and instead of just complaining, decided to do something about it.

She showed her brother and the world that kids– with a little help from social media–  have the power to stir change.

That girl’s going places.

When I hear a story like that it makes me wish my kids had that kind of diligence, and tenacity. My boys (7, 9, and 12) are all smart and personable. I’d like to think they could do something enterprising like McKenna but so far, I don’t see any evidence of social consciousness.

Just a lot of sports stats, inappropriate song lyrics, and bodily function noises.

12-year-old Jacob can be extremely persistent when it comes to selfish causes, like lobbying for a cellphone upgrade or a sleepover. Maybe it will just take the right cause to awaken their sense of justice.

I’m going to tell my boys McKenna’s story and hope they get inspired.  Today an Easy Bake Oven for boys… tomorrow, who knows?

Reverberations of Newtown

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I spent most of Friday glued to the TV as the events in Newtown, Connecticut unfolded. You would think after covering news for more than 20 years, I’d have seen it all. But the depths of sickness and evil continue to plummet.

I can’t fathom a story more horrific or tragic. It left the nation feeling helpless and distraught, imagining the pain the victims’ families and that community must feel.

I woke up Saturday morning wondering what those mothers were thinking when they opened their eyes to another day to endure without their children. I went through the motions of my day, but at some point every hour or so I felt my spirit sinking as a memory of the scene or a TV interview flashed through my mind.

I was most moved by one teacher’s account to Diane Sawyer about how she hid  15 1st graders in a bathroom and tried to keep them quiet. Some kids cried and said they wanted their mommies, others said they just wanted to go home and celebrate Christmas. One boy said he would protect them because he knew karate. I could completely hear my 7-year-old saying that. (You can watch the interview here. I dare you not to cry.)

On the way home from a basketball game Saturday afternoon, I had my 12-year-old and 7-year-old in the car with me as we listened to Maroon 5 singing “Moves Like Jagger.” We all bopped in our seats and belted out the words and as I glanced back at them, I felt a rush of emotion. It was that feeling that sometimes comes when your kid achieves a goal, says something amazing, or gives you a longer hug than usual. A sense of connection, a reminder of bottomless love.

I felt that for a moment as I watched my two boys smiling and singing so happily in the car, without a care in the world. Then I bit my lip and swallowed hard as I felt the tears coming.

I was grateful for the simple moment of joy….relieved that my boys were safe. Then came a wave of guilt for my good fortune. It’s not fair that I get to sing in the car while parents and grandparents and brothers and sisters are grieving and asking why.

I keep turning the TV on, looking for some satisfactory motive, but there is only speculation. I’ve seen reports on the bravery of teachers and first responders,  and endless advice on how to talk to your kids about this kind of violence in a place that’s supposed to be secure.

The more I see, the more I weep.

One of the most frightening parts of this story– and many like it in recent months–  is that now there seems to be no place impervious to random violence. Not a movie theater, not a shopping mall, and now not even an elementary school.

We can’t always protect our kids from harm. What we can do is pay attention to singing in the car, covet those moments, and hope they last a lifetime.

p.s. If you want to do something to help, there’s a pay-it-forward movement to help buy dinner for a Newtown family to show they’re in our thoughts. You can read about it here.

Sandy post script (and photos!)

KIds enjoyed candles & flashlights for a few days

This is my last Sandy post, I swear. For the past several days, many people have suggested I write another post about the aftermath.

It was a unique experience for me because I’ve worked in news all my adult life and have covered dozens of major storms. I was familiar with weather devastation– especially when covering Katrina, when I had to handle food, shelter, transportation, and gas for our crews while doing live shots every half hour for weeks.  While everyone else gets back to normal, storm victims are left in often rough condition and cut off from the world.

This time, I was cut off. We had no power for a week, no TV or internet for 10 days, and with roads and trains blocked and gas lines long, we didn’t venture out of our little town. My lame Blackberry allowed me to view email but connection to the web was sketchy at best and wasted too much precious juice. I was moved by snippets of stories on Twitter– a woman in Staten island who lost her kids when her car flooded, basements on the Jersey Shore filled with sand, and Rockaway rescue workers who helped neighbors even when their own homes were destroyed.

Downed tree only a few houses away from ours

Check out how tall this tree was in our ‘hood

But I saw no photos, viewed no “20/20” news wraps. I heard Bruce led a star-studded concert to help Sandy victims. Normally that would have been appointment TV for me, but I never saw a clip.

Common post-Sandy sight: plugging into generators

I’m not asking for sympathy. Please save that for the thousands of people still without power despite freezing and snowy weather conditions in the last week. Or offer it to those who have lost their homes and personal possessions and have to choose between the daunting task of rebuilding or finding a new place to live while they piece their lives back together.

Our NJ town lost some very old, huge trees

There are many post-Sandy inconveniences that still aren’t resolved. Commuting has become the focus of many North Jerseyites who were spoiled by direct train service to Manhattan. For the last 2 weeks, many (including Wilson) worked from home or (like me) left at 530am to avoid traffic driving  into the city. Bus routes were unreliable and often required long waits.  I don’t know anyone whose commute was less than 2 hours each way. I got stuck in traffic for two accidents at the Lincoln Tunnel Monday that made me almost 4 hours late for work! There are email chains, Twitter feeds, and endless conversations with both friends and strangers touting transportation trauma and tricks.

Cleaned out fridge/freezer.

I was at a party this weekend where many men were sporting beards because they didn’t bother shaving for two weeks in the dark cold. Women complained about the “Sandy 7” which everyone seemed to gain after days of indulgence. Who can stay on a diet when ice cream is melting in your freezer? Many couldn’t resist munching snacks all day when there was little else to do. The wine every night didn’t help either.

Wilson’s post Sandy beard

But as I said in my last posts, we also had some fun nights with family and friends. Many spontaneous candle lit evenings would never have happened in the real world but post-storm conditions gave everyone the luxury of unstructured time.

Lots of time playing board games in jammies

HAD to eat all the ice cream when power went out!

In many ways, the last two weeks has felt like a dream or a movie. It was all so unbelievable and unfamiliar, and you had to just get through it. It’s hard to comprehend that in the midst of all this, we elected a new president. We didn’t have cable on election night and I had to get up at 5a the next day so I barely watched the returns.

My experience as a storm victim has taught me and my family several things. There’s been a lot of talk at our dinner table about gratitude. I still marvel every time I turn my closet light on or use the microwave like I’m some kind of transplanted time traveler.  I’m grateful every morning when I brush my teeth and every surface in my bathroom isn’t icy.

Surviving Sandy made us all older and wiser (and colder and wider!) and gave us an appreciation for our families and our community. It’s an experience that will stay with us and hopefully taught my kids that although it was an uncertain and uncomfortable situation, we were the lucky ones.

Sandy’s top 7 silver linings

Oh Sandy.

I’m writing this post from a friend’s house because we haven’t had power since Monday evening. It’s barely been three days but feels like three weeks. Our town was hit hard enough to knock down scores of giant trees and cause some major damage, but there was little rain here so we are extremely fortunate to have no water or tree damage at our house.

I’ve only been able to see snippets of the news but from even the little I’ve seen, there are so many whose homes and businesses have been destroyed, I would feel like a heel to complain at all.

There are quite a few obvious drawbacks to not having power. The most challenging for me is our house getting increasingly colder as the week drags on. I wear a minimum of 4 layers and try to keep moving. Wilson is feeling antsy about missing so much work. The kids have been troopers but they get stir crazy in the evenings and have been stomping on each other’s last nerve about every 20 minutes when stuck inside.

But despite those petty grievances, I’ve been trying to stay positive because it could be SO much worse. So this post is about all the positive results of living through one of the worst storms in U.S. history.

Time with family and friends— It’s so rare these days that we get to spend this much time together. School and activities have been canceled and we weren’t able to get to work for days so there’s no rushing. We’ve had to conserve phone juice so that’s put a limit on talking and texting. That just leaves time to read, relax, clean, and play board games. We’ve spent every night with friends, eating what’s left in the fridge by candlelight and drinking wine by the fire. We’ve been able to reach out and see friends we normally wouldn’t because everyone’s plans are on hold and there’s time to check in.

Sleep — I can’t tell you the last time I’ve gotten more than 8 hours of sleep for several days in a row. Even on vacation I manage to stay up late. But with no power, TV and the computer can’t tempt me. There’s no incentive for the kids to be up late when it’s so dark and everyone’s going to bed, so we’re huddling under the covers early and staying in bed later in the morning. I can already see lines on my face disappearing! Now if I could only continue this sleep pattern in real life.

Cleaning out the refrigerator — It’s an odious job and you never know what you’re going to find. This week we’ve been forced to do some scary smell tests and stifle our aversion to waste by tossing more than I’d like. But we’ll have an immaculate fridge and a task I have pushed down on my to-do list for months is now complete.

Renewed sense of community— The morning after the power went out my friend Ilysse called to say she had power so we could come to her house and recharge, get warm, use wifi. We have spent time there twice and they could not have been more generous or welcoming. I also spent most of today with my friend, Meredith, whose son is one of Aden’s pals. We normally would never have had the time to spend an afternoon together chatting, but what a treat. In addition to the heat and technology hookup, she introduced me to a friend who is a fellow writer/blogger who I never would have met otherwise. Our town has power and the streets and restaurants have been packed with people– friends and strangers– asking about our status and willing to help if they can.

Back to basics playtime — The kids don’t have TV, the computer, or video games to distract them. They’ve been playing football outside every day, walking to town for lunch or a trip to the bookstore, and playing games at night. Because there’s no school I coerced them into mandatory reading hour every morning before they go outside. Interesting that they have not complained or cried boredom once. The only downside is too much time together so they have been fighting more than usual but overall, kicking it old school has been a success.

Survival skills — You never know how you’re going to react in bad circumstances. I’m proud that despite all the inconveniences, our family, friends and town persevered and made it work. Necessity is the mother of invention and we had to improvise a lot this week but we looked at it as an adventure instead of a burden and we are better for it.

Gratitude — I can’t tell you how many times I’ve thrown a light switch this week out of habit, forgetting we had no power…. or how often I realized we couldn’t complete a simple task without the internet. And as I stomp my feet around the house trying to get feeling back into my toes, I yearn for a warm house again. But then I think of the people who have no house or possessions at all. When the power goes back on, we will have a new appreciation for the things we take for granted every day.

I mourn with the nation for those who lost their lives and/or livelihoods due to superstorm Sandy. Once I plug back in I’m sure I’ll be obsessed with watching the coverage to try to catch up with all the tragic stories. But in our little corner of the world, the week was actually a bit of respite that made us realize what’s really important.

How did Sandy affect you? Tell me in the comments.

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