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Top 7 netiquette rules: are you minding your digital manners?

I recently came across my copy of the latest edition of “Emily Post’s Etiquette.” I interviewed Emily’s great-great grandson a while ago for an article about the book, which had a new section on communication and technology. Just for laughs I thumbed through it to see how I’m doing.

Turns out, I’m an inconsiderate boor…. and you probably are too.

Emily Post Manners for New World  book

The book suggests manners are for everyone, not just old ladies at dinner parties. Though most of the advice is common sense, it’s astonishing how often we violate basic etiquette rules. The Post guidelines–  based on principles of respect, consideration and honesty—have remained the same since 1922 and still ring true.

Technology has drastically changed the way we communicate, but shouldn’t alter the way we treat each other. Here are 7 basic tenets of modern netiquette. See how many you’ve breached today:

 Always respond within a day or two to personal emails, and within 24 hours for business mails.  And check with friends and family before forwarding spam.

Never interrupt a conversation to answer a call, email or text. And don’t use a smart phone in a place of worship, theater, or restaurant, or during a meeting or presentation. (If you’re expecting an urgent call, set your device to vibrate and check it later, or move to a private space and speak quietly.)

cell phone ban graphic

— If a call gets disconnected, the person who initiated the call should redial the other person and apologize, even if it’s the phone carrier’s fault.

Don’t type, eat, shuffle papers or do anything that tells the caller your attention is elsewhere. And never, ever “call from the stall”; nothing ends a conversation quicker than a toilet flush.

Don’t overtext. Ask yourself if you would call someone on the phone as often as you’re sending text messages.

Anything you email, text or post online is considered a public document, so make sure it would be fit for a community bulletin board before you send it.

You’re not required to respond to every person who contacts you on Facebook, and it’s perfectly acceptable to unfriend someone, untag yourself from photos, or delete a friend’s comment from your page. But always ask permission before posting a friend’s good news or event photos.

The Posts believe human contact still matters, and people should talk in person whenever possible. Remember talking to people?

I tried to live by Post rules after my article came out and I was amazed at how often people disregarded common decency and respect. But more than a year later, I’m just as rude as the next keyboard-punching, loud-talking, interrupting clod.

It’s hard to correct others who ditch decorum, but you can at least try to set a good example. I’m on my best behavior now….are you?

New York City with kids: a little sight, a little bite

new york historical society museum for kids

We live about 30 minutes from New York City and I like to take a Big Apple family outing about every six weeks. Our weekends are packed with sports and activities, so it doesn’t always happen , but it’s a goal.

Wilson’s always game but the boys (7, 9, and 13) are usually wary. It might be because our excursions usually entail a cultural activity, which they whine and complain about beforehand, but usually enjoy.  I’ve learned the key is to make it short, limit the walking, and always, always, entice them with food.

We recently took a particularly successful city sojourn that’s blog-worthy for those seeking that sweet spot activity that’s engaging, educational, and fun.

Eli eats burger

We started out at the Shake Shack on the Upper West Side.  We are burger connoisseurs so believe me when I say the Shack Burger with house sauce is terrific and you can’t find anything as delicious as the Shack-cago dog without hopping on a plane to the Second City. The fries are also quite good and the shakes always wow my boys.  They even have a vegetarian option (but really, what’s the point?) and for those of you needing extra courage and/or patience for  your day of culture with the kids, they sell wine and beer.  The lines can be long so try to go just before 12p or after 2p if possible, but the reasonably priced, tasty eats are completely worth the wait.

new york historical society museum for kids

Then we sauntered a block over to 77th and Central Park West to the New York Historical Society Museum.  We all loved the short film about the history of New York that repeats in the lobby theater all day. It’s shown on a giant screen and follows the city from shipping destination to power center, highlighting its diversity of citizens and significant events. The museum has an eclectic group of exhibits– from art (paintings, photography and sculpture)  to culture (Tiffany lamps to vintage trains and toys.) The building is easy to navigate and you can cover a lot in a short time.

Eli plays interactive game at Children's History Museum

Eli plays interactive game at Children’s History Museum

But the must see for kids is the  Children’s History Museum on the lower level of the building. The idea is to explore the history of New York through the eyes of children of the past. There are several interactive exhibits in the space, on topics that interest kids. 13-year-old Jacob liked the voting exhibit that was a guessing game teaching who was allowed to vote in elections through the years.

Jacob creates his own 1930's headline

Jacob creates his own 1930’s headline

The kids museum offers great free programs so check the calendar before you go. The day we visited, an expert on Abraham Lincoln give the kids a quiz about his life. My uber-competitive boys love learning that way.  There are also two scavenger hunt lists kids can fill out as you walk through the building, which keeps them involved.

Lincoln quiz in museum library

Lincoln quiz in museum library

While you could spend more time there, we did a clean sweep of the museum in about two hours. All that walking and learning made my guys hungry again so we headed to Sugar and Plumm a bistro with Parisian flair– on 79th and Amsterdam.  You can sit down and eat from a menu featuring items all made with fresh ingredients like buckwheat savory crepes and chicken and waffles.

Sugar & Plumm NYC with kids

OR  you can skip the real food and go for dessert– in almost any form.  The choices are heaven, but the choosing was hell. How to commit, between sundaes, cookies, cakes, chocolate, and gelato? Still pining for Paris, Jacob and I split a banana Nutella crepe that was sublime, and I bought some cookies on the side.

Sugar & Plumm NYC with kids

There’s also a small but ample candy section that will make your kids’ eyes pop out of their heads.  Aden and Eli shared gummy worms and a bar of white chocolate while Wilson had coffee and a macaroon. We sat at a communal table by the window, admiring every whipped cream, chocolatey delight that passed by.

Sugar & Plumm NYC with kids
In the car ride home, the kids confessed to enjoying the museum and still fondly remember the food. It’s always good to end on a high note and we had enough sugar and caffeine in us to soar.

Please tell me in the comments about any successful New York activities you’d recommend with kids.

New book “Secrets of Happy Families” is worth your time

How many times have you discussed child rearing with a friend who recommended a book to help navigate a problem? If you’re anything like me, you’re a parent with wonderful intentions, and a stack of unread parenting books on the night table.

I have books on everything from sleeping to discipline to making boys into men– all collecting dust.  But recently I reviewed a book for the Associated Press that I promise is worth your time.

secrets of happy families review

The Secrets of Happy Families” is easy to read and offers clear, useful suggestions for eliminating some of the stress of modern parenting. Best-selling author, Bruce Feiler  (he wrote “Walking the Bible” and “Council of Dads”) is known for researching complicated topics and making them understandable and relatable.

He’s also a husband and father of two, so he has a vested interest in creating a successful playbook for happy families.

Feiler read hundreds of books by so-called “experts,” only to realize that their advice was outdated and not applicable to families in the real world. So instead, he goes to people at the top of their game in business, technology, sports, and the military who offer innovative ideas that succeed at work and at home.

In the chapter on managing money, Feiler speaks to one of Warren Buffet’s finance guys about how much allowance is appropriate for kids. He visits ESPN to talk about the best way to parent kid athletes, and he chats with the techies at Zynga– the huge gaming company that brought you Farmville and Mafia Wars– about the  best ways to amuse kids in an airport or long car trip. In the section on  fighting smarter, he consults Harvard negotiation gurus who broker mideast peace talks and applies it to a recurring argument with his wife.

He also sits down with several families that have tested strategies to control the chaos. Imagine getting through your morning routine or dinner/activities crunch without feeling like you’ve survived a war!

Bruce Feiler is the author.

Bruce Feiler is the author.

What I liked most about the book is Feiler’s voice. He writes candidly about the realities of family life, even when it’s not pretty. He shares stories about his own wife and children as they play guinea pig for the methods in the book. Never talking down to the reader, he writes with humor and honesty that resonates.

Feiler doesn’t pretend to solve every problem in his pursuit of happiness. He offers concrete suggestions for streamlining family life and reminds parents that– like anything worth having– a happy family takes work.

I’m glad this book wasn’t left to wither away on my shelf like so many others.  I’m making Wilson read it next so we can work as a team to implement some of the suggestions. Now we have new tools to work towards serenity in the home.

Just yelling less in the morning would be nice.

You can read the full review of “Secrets of Happy Families” here.

Mickey as Big Brother? Disney Goes High-Tech

I read an interesting article recently about Disney World making a major technological change that could cause some controversy.  Soon park visitors will be able to buy food and souvenirs with the tap of a bracelet. You’ll be able to virtually wait on line for popular rides while enjoying another part of the park. All great changes, right? But what’s the cost?

Perhaps your privacy.

disney world image

The new “vacation management” system– quaintly called MyMagic+ — improves your park experience, while collecting data on your family.

The holy grail for most companies is gathering information about customers’ purchasing preferences. But slipping on a MyMagic+ bracelet will allow Mickey to track your every move.

The house of mouse knows how to lure its disciples. Who could resist using the new MyMagic+ app to preselect several FastPasses for popular rides, or save a prime spot to watch the parades and fireworks, or schedule a sit-down with Buzz Lightyear? There will also be some kind of magic band that will function as a room key, park ticket, and credit card.

According to the article, you’ll be able to enter personal information to a data site that will be stored and readable so when you run into Ariel the Mermaid in line for Splash Mountain, she’ll be able to personally greet your star-struck kid and even tell her happy birthday. The idea is to make your park visit as interactive as possible.

That Walt is good. He knows just how to get you.

Of course, no one will be forced to use the Magic bands and bracelets, and it will be up to you to decide which information to share. But there are privacy concerns, especially when it comes to divulging details on kids. And not everyone will like the idea of having eyes on them all over the park.

Space Mountain at Disneyland

You can read the full NY Times article for details here.

As I’ve said in previous posts, we’re Disney fans and one of the best parts of the experience is how every family member unplugs all day.  It’s one of the few places that appeals to all ages and no one even notices we’re off the grid.

I’m not sure I  need new technology distracting us. Part of the fun of the day is standing on some of those long lines, catching up with our cousins or playing games with the kids while anticipating the fun of the ride. I don’t want to be checking my smart phone or iPad several times a day to make sure I’m getting every modern advantage possible.

Disney is the leader in amusement park innovation so these high-tech changes will likely show up in other venues soon. How will this new technology affect your experience? Do you think the Magic bands will zap some of the charm out of the Disney adventure? Let me know in the comments.

Merry and bright: NYC holiday windows

NYC holiday windows

One of our family holiday traditions is to walk around Manhattan on Christmas Eve. We look at the city decorations, the famous 5th Avenue store windows, and the Rockefeller tree. Then we eat sushi.

This year it was cold and rainy on Christmas Eve so Wilson agreed to play chauffeur. We started at Barney’s on Madison Avenue and 60th Street and worked our way down 5th Avenue. When we got to a store, the kids and I would jump out to check out the windows while Wilson took a lap around the block.

I give you my pics of the best of 5th Avenue over the holidays……

Barneys NYC holiday window

Barney’s is always amazingly artsy, textured and wild but this year was a huge let down. Each of their windows was filled with video screens playing corny music and showing psychedelic colored lights. They called it “Electric Holiday” but to me it was anything but.

Bergdorff Goodman NYC holiday windows

Bergdorf Goodman did not disappoint with a magic theme that had 5 windows featuring gorgeous handmade designer dresses with edgy concepts. I love the textures and attention to detail. (Real enthusiasts see the BG windows blog for design details.)

Bergdorff Goodman NYC holiday windows

Bergdorff Goodman NYC holiday windows

Bergdorff Goodman NYC holiday windows

One was filled from floor to ceiling with white feathers of all kinds. Another had a giant performing seal made completely of mosaic tiles of grey and mirrored glass.

Bergdorff Goodman NYC holiday windows

Bergdorff Goodman NYC holiday windows

Yet another made the window look like the aerial view of a musicians’ party on a checkered floor, dressed in fabulous clothes, of course.

Bergdorff Goodman NYC holiday windows

Further down on 5th Avenue, we saw the amazing wrap around jewels at the Bulgari boutique….

Bulgari NYC holiday windows

Fendi NYC holiday windows

….and the sparkly belts and dripping icicles at the Fendi store.

Fendi NY holiday windows

Cartier was wrapped in a two-story bright red bow of light.

Cartier NYC holiday windows

We made our way to Saks but the crowds were huge and the windows not that special so couldn’t get any good photos of those. But did get one last shot of the Rockefeller tree as we whizzed by.

Rockefeller tree NYC holiday windows

Then we ended the night at Haru on the Upper West Side where I had a “Perfect Fantasy” roll and  a glass of wine. The kids cleaned their plates and — infected with holiday spirit– we had a fun family dinner.

Christmas Eve Sushi in NYC

Christmas Eve sushi dinner NYC

Hope you all had sparkly holidays filled with love and laughter!

Top 7 Disneyland insider tips

Every year our family heads to California for Thanksgiving. We have many traditions and one is going to Disneyland the Tuesday before turkey day. We’ve been to the original House of Mouse at least 10 times so I’ve gathered some tips.

It may be the happiest place on earth, but days in the park are l o n g and kids can experience a range of emotions when expectations for fun and joy are higher than the flag on Cinderella’s castle. Here are 7 suggestions for a magical Disneyland trip.

Get there early. Seems obvious, but every year we plan to rise at dawn, and it never happens. This year, we actually got to the park before 10a and it made a huge difference. We headed straight for Splash Mountain where there was no line (45 minutes later, the wait was nearly an hour.) Then we banged out the nearby Haunted Mansion and Pirates of the Caribbean, which saved us oodles of time.  The rest of the day we waited at least 20-30 minutes for each ride but it was ok because we had a few under our belts already. The park opens at 8a so if you’re not slugs like us, take advantage of the empty early morning hours.

Getting psyched to soak on Splash Mountain

Wear layers and comfortable shoes. We go in November when it’s about 65 degrees,  but can get up to 80 or dip down to 50 anytime so clothing is key. My kids (ages 12, 9, and 7) dress in shorts, a t-shirt, and sneakers and I wear yoga pants with a tank top and long-sleeved t-shirt. We carry a backpack with sweatshirts for everyone. Unless it’s summertime, as soon as the sun goes down, it gets surprisingly cool in the park and on the rides. If you like Splash Mountain or other water rides, you’ll need the extra layers to change or get warm.  Also remember you will be walking and standing all day. Don’t be the martyr who prides herself on always being stylish in heels or boots. I wear sneakers or my most comfortable rubber-soled flats and my feet still feel like they were run over by Goofy’s car at the end of the day.

Mickey ice cream sandwich: $4.50

— Bring snacks. Load up your backpack with healthy snacks before you go and you’ll save money and patience. While there are snacks sold all over the park, they’re never really what you want to eat and each snack– from a fruit cup to a cookie– is outrageously expensive because it has Mickey’s face on it. Snacks stave off hunger until you can get to meals and make the long line for Buzz Lightyear’s Astro Blasters ride (my favorite!) go much faster. Bring pretzels, yogurt, applesauce, fruit, cookies, cheese sticks from home and you’ll be golden. I would also recommend bringing water bottles– or hanging on to a bottle you buy in the park– for refills throughout the day.

Use Fast Pass and ride vouchers. By now you probably know about the Fast Pass but it’s knowing when to use it that’s key. By 12pm, the Fast Pass window for Star Tours (a cool 3D Star Wars ride) was already at 7pm. We don’t usually stay that late so we had to wait on the regular line for 40 minutes to get on the ride. If we had Fast Passed by 9 or 10am, we could have gone on the ride with no wait in the middle of the day.  Also, Fast Passes can be used more than once so after you Fast Pass one ride, you can Fast Pass another. But if you use it too late, that is not usually an option. (For more Fast Pass rules and ride lists click here.) Another secret I discovered this year is ride vouchers. If a ride is not working– this year one of our favs, Indiana Jones Adventure, was being serviced– you can go to Disney Town Hall and request a ride voucher. Next time you visit the park, if the ride is working, you basically get a Fast Pass for up to 6 people to ride it. Bonus!

Eat lunch on the Tomorrowland Terrace. You have to eat lunch and though none of the park’s food is stellar, this is our preferred option. The menu has some healthy choices for adults, and the kids meals include sliced apples or carrots and milk or water. Make sure to check your park map for the scheduled showtimes and plan your meal to coincide with the Jedi Training Academy show. It’s fun to watch the live action, featuring several kids selected from the audience to don the famous brown robes and train with a Star Wars Jedi Master. After training, they battle Darth Vader and Darth Maul with light sabers. 7-year-old Eli really wanted to be in the show so I asked one of the handlers how to get him selected.  She recommended making signs and standing by him, cheering loudly. We did and he got picked!

Master Eli battles Vader

Cheating the ride photos. Disneyland tickets are up to $81 for kids ages 3-9 and $87 for ages 10 and up so even one day at the park is an expensive endeavor. So I’m always looking for ways to save money without losing out on any part of the experience. Our cousin used a clever trick this year. On certain roller coasters, the park takes a photo of each car as it flies down the deepest drop. The pictures are then shown on a screen as you exit the ride. If you want to purchase the photos, they cost a minimum of $15. The problem is, it’s never a perfect photo– it inevitably has some random guy grinning as he blocks your kid in the back– so not worth the money. If you hustle to the screens quickly and find your photo, take a picture on your cell phone of the picture. It’s not the highest quality, but you can still capture the moment for free!

Buy glow-in-the dark souvenirs.  If you’re so over the monogrammed mouse ears, see the light instead! My kids have every version of souvenir, but the best are those that light up. It gets dark quickly at the end of the day and right around parade time, there are several carts and stores that sell all different toys — from princess wands to space radar guns to spinning character lights– that can help you walk safely and entertain the kids. And light up toys will still be fun at home. Want to avoid souvenirs altogether? Throw a bunch of dollar store glow sticks in your suitcase before you go.

Would love to hear your tips in the comments. Wishing all your dreams come true in the land of Disney!

Top 7 Things to Do with Kids in Martha’s Vineyard

Beach in Aquinnah, Martha’s Vineyard

We did some great activities with the kids in Martha’s Vineyard last month so I wanted to share. As I said in previous posts, we traveled with two other families so we had boys and girls ranging in age from 6 to 14, and we managed to find destinations that worked for everyone. Here are some of the highlights:

Jump off the bridge at State beach. There are many beautiful beaches to visit and with its proximity to a main road and its rough, rocky sand, Joseph Sylvia State Beach would not be a first choice, unless you have adventurous kids who like a challenge.  There’s a bridge at one end of the beach (it’s famous for its role in “Jaws,”) where people can climb onto or over the railing and jump into Nantucket Sound below.  It’s high enough to intimidate adults and kids (I know because I stood at the top for a good 10 minutes before taking the plunge) but the water is deep and calm below so usually once the kids brave it the first time, there are multiple jumps to follow.

Post fishing dinner and sunset
Menemsha Beach, Martha’s Vineyard

Fish and watch sunset in Menemsha. We brought fishing gear but you can rent it on the island or just grab a bucket and look for crabs on the jetty in Menemsha. The kids loved fishing and seeing all the different sea creatures they found in their crab nets. Go in the late afternoon so you are there for sunset. You can pick up amazing seafood– raw or cooked– just a short walk from the beach at Larsen’s Fish Market or The Bite and bring it back to your blanket to watch Mother Nature paint gorgeous colors across the sky as you pop clams in your mouth.

Ride the carousel in Oak Bluffs. I would call this an activity for younger kids, except there’s a contest element that attracted my uber-competitive older boys. The Flying Horses Carousel is the oldest operating in the country, in business since 1876.  So small you could miss it, it’s housed inside an arcade by the water and features carefully preserved hand-painted horses, some original with horse-hair manes and tails. 6-year-old Eli loved the ride and 12-year-old Jacob got into the brass ring game, where you collect as many rings as you can as you ride by the metal ring dispenser. Eli was thrilled to win the brass ring and score a free second ride.

Rent a paddle board. This was the most fun and the greatest value. We rented the board and oar from Wind’s Up  in Vineyard Haven for three days and there was a kid or adult on that thing every moment we were on the beach. Our beach was on the Vineyard Sound side so the water was calm and the kids could explore on their own with little risk. You could float on it like a raft, and go out with multiple people or alone. It was peaceful and great exercise, as it requires balance and core strength.  Best part? Kids were never bored with the board.

See the lighthouse (and the unclothed) at Aquinnah Beach. Once we casually mentioned there was a clothes-optional beach on the island, the kids were obsessed with seeing it. It wasn’t the bare n–ked ladies but the beautiful setting and waves that lured us to G-y Head in Aquinnah on the western shore of the island. The picturesque beach is set against giant bluffs of endangered clay and spotted with giant rocks. The iconic 155-year-old red brick lighthouse stands on top of one of the bluffs looking very New Englandy.  The kids played in the waves and eventually took a walk down to that part of the beach where they discovered most of the sunbathers are people you’d prefer not to see exposed.  Despite that disappointment, it remains a highlight of the older kids’ trip.

Edgartown, Martha’s Vineyard

Shop in Vineyard Haven and Edgartown. My favorite time to shop is on vacation when I’m not hurried and there are more unique boutiques. Don’t just go for the Black Dog t-shirt. The shops in Edgartown and Vineyard Haven are adorable and sell a variety of goods. Carly Simon’s store, Midnight Farm is a must, offering eclectic vintage and new clothing, furniture, and gifts. Other stores sell artsy and antique home goods and jewelry. I’m not gonna lie: this didn’t go over with my boys, but the 13-year-old girls were all over it.

Be Island Scavenger hunters. Many local stores sell the laminated Funhunters Martha’s Vineyard Scavenger Hunt booklet. It challenges kids to find many of the island’s iconic symbols (lighthouse, scallop shell,)  nautical  items, and several local plants and animals.  It’s great to bring out to dinner to distract the kids and a nice keepsake when you go home to remember all you saw on the Vineyard.

We’re planning to return to the Vineyard next year because we loved our time there so much. If you have any activities for kids– or adults– to recommend, please tell me in the comments. I’m already planning next year’s escape, if only in my mind.

Top 7 Best Eats in Martha’s Vineyard

One of my favorite ways to get info on a new place we’re visiting is to look it up in the New York Times Travel section’s  “36 Hours in ….” series. That article always has great, succinct advice on what to do and see, and more importantly, where to eat.

I always prefer the inside scoop from someone who’s been there, and not a lame paragraph in Fodor’s, so thought I’d share some tips with you. Today’s post is on food and later this week I’ll post about fun activities, especially with kids.

Here’s my report on our Top 7 eats from the trenches of Martha’s Vineyard :

–While not quite on the Vineyard yet, I highly recommend you stop at Pie in the Sky bakery in Woods Hole. No matter what ungodly hour you got stuck with to ferry your car over, you can get a great cup of Joe and delicious bread and cookies. Don’t miss their famous popovers.

Look at the size of that thing!

— Many restaurants will claim to serve the best lobster roll on the island and it would be fun to try them all but we only had time for two. I would recommend the lobster roll at MacPhail’s Corner Cafe.  I liked the toasted buttery bun and the right amount of mayo to bring out the flavor of the big chunks of lobster. The Net Result and Among the Flowers are also good places to try one.

–Surprise, surprise but my list is saturated with seafood! For the best takeout fried clams  I would head to The Bite in Menemsha. This tiny shack by the beach fries up clams, oysters, squid, shrimp and scallops, and has chicken and mozzarella sticks for fish-fearing tots. Tender fresh fish and not overly greasy.

–Wherever I go, especially in the summer, I must find ice cream. The Vineyard has many places to sample a scoop but I recommend  Mad Martha’s. This award-winning homemade ice cream comes in many flavors off the beaten path– black raspberry, mint Oreo, butter crunch, coconut– that evoke gelato with their rich taste. They also offer a wide selection of homemade frozen yogurt that tastes like food, instead of chemicals. Locations in Edgartown, Vineyard Haven and Oak Bluffs make it easy to covet a cone.

Friends Katie & Marisa loved Mad Martha’s

–If you’re still hankering for lobster but don’t want to bust the bank, head to Larsen’s Fish Market  in Menemsha for an excellent raw fish selection. Lobsters of every size, several fish filets, swordfish, clams, mussels and more are so fresh, sometimes you can see the fisherman who caught them zooming off in his boat when you arrive. The friendly staff offers great cooking advice for novices and the prepared foods– particularly the lobster bisque— make Larsen’s an essential stop on your eating tour.

Live lobster races: cruel torture or last hurrah?

–If you’re passionate for pastries like me there are many bakeries on the island to satisfy your sweet tooth. Our favorites included the banana bread from Morning Glory Farm, pies at Eileen Blake’s,  and apple fritters from the famous Black Dog.  The fresh and local ingredients make eating these treats seem less sinful, and somehow more healthy.

–My 12-year-old son is obsessed with sushi so he was determined to try it on the Vineyard. We took a deep breath of sea air, ordered salmon, eel, and tuna rolls from The Net Result in Vineyard Haven and hoped for the best. I was skeptical but it was fresh, delicious sushi.  You can eat at picnic tables outside the market or take it to go, as we did,  for our ferry ride home.

Almost forgot amazing clam chowdah from the Seafood Shanty!

We didn’t have a bad meal on the Vineyard. Maybe it’s because we knew where to go or maybe because so much of it is made with all natural ingredients, the food just tastes better.  Even if your kids don’t love seafood, there are plenty of choices and price points for traveling families.

I’d love to hear any places you’ve tried on the Vineyard for our next trip…tell me in the comments.

Scenes of Summer 2012…Please Don’t Go

Summer is my favorite season. I love the weather –even heat and humidity– the activities, the beach, our annual vacation, even the fruit is best in summer.  But, I wouldn’t appreciate summer if it lasted all year, so it’s time to say goodbye.

Here are some visual highlights of my summer. Maybe you’ll recognize some from yours too. Enjoy!

Neighborhood lemonade stand made $15 for local library

Aden pitching. Go Cougars!

Anticipation

Oooing & aaahing over fireworks on July 4th

A day’s work at the beach

We ate lots of ice cream

Eli chilling at the pool

Lobster at Moby’s Atlantic Highlands, NJ

Wilson braves the rain for a well cooked burger

I’ll miss this most!
Lambert’s Cove, Martha’s Vineyard

You know, fall’s not so bad either. Crisp air, changing leaves, new school supplies, football….. What’s your favorite season and why? Tell me in the comments!

Vacationing with Friends

The kids never fought!!

We recently returned from a glorious week in Martha’s Vineyard with two other families. Our rented house was brimming with people, including 6 adults and 8 kids (ages 6-13.) We had never traveled with these families before but we got lucky because everyone got along swimmingly, making the week relaxing and fun.

View of Vineyard Haven from the ferry

There are many advantages to going away with other families. It was much cheaper to split our house, food, and activities three ways. The kids had constant and varied playmates to entertain them, and it made the tone of the trip seem more like an endless party (or week-long sleepover as the kids called it.)

We fed the kids first every night

Obviously everyone is unique and has different vacation expectations so this Brady- Bunch-goes-to-Hawaii set up is not for those who demand privacy, quiet and autonomy.  Sometimes it’s a bonus to have someone else make decisions about meals and daily plans. I loved not having the pressure to plan dinner every night. That also meant that we didn’t always do or eat what would have been my first choice. But for us, the positives well outweighed the drawbacks.

Always someone to talk to but we read too

Our old house was a typical island summer home—nice enough to feel clean and upgraded, but also featured sandy floors, funky closet smells, and the weakest water pressure I’ve ever experienced. But we didn’t care about any of that because it was 50 yards from a private beach overlooking Lambert’s Cove. There was a bluff hanging over the shore with Adirondack chairs and a hammock that were so inviting I started to consider whether I could make it through a cold, lonely Vineyard winter just to stay forever.

(The day we left, 6-year-old Eli told me he wanted to spend first grade at the house in MV and come back to Jersey for second grade.  It was difficult to dash his dreams.)

Sharing a cocktail and a view

Most nights we gathered on the bluff with drinks and sweatshirts to watch the sun sink into the sea and life was good.

Sunset swimming

There were a few moments in the middle of all the chaos, when I actually missed my family. The boys all crammed into one room in a separate part of the house so I never even tucked them in at night. I felt like I hadn’t spoken to 9-year-old Aden in days and 12-year-old Jacob was in “cool” mode in front of friends and the two 13-year-old girls with us so we didn’t get to bond as we have on other vacations.

Eli did his best to keep up with the big kids and often was the center of attention with his funny comments and dramatic outbursts. I hope he was as entertaining to our friends as he usually is to us.

Eli clutches live lobsters before steaming

Would I cram into a small house with 14 loud, opinionated people on a woodsy island again?

As sure as the sun sets over Vineyard Sound, I’d do it next year in a heartbeat.